11/8/2023 0 Comments Mother load show![]() ![]() Oh, and let’s talk about how the body changes along with the mind. Show me a mom who isn’t terrified she’ll probably need therapy, despite her very best efforts not to screw up. Show me a mom who’s not afraid she’ll emotionally scar her children for life. The connection a mother has with her child places a weight on her shoulders because she can see every possible outcome. There’s a lot to worry about as a mom, so we imagine alone time and kid-free thoughts because the scary thoughts that creep in feel like a load that we can’t bear alone. It’s heart-wrenching to think about the cruelty in the world that directly affects our children. Or maybe we can’t stand the thought of our kids experiencing real-life disappointments. It’s probably because we are terrified of screwing up. Perhaps fantasizing about being alone is our brain’s way of trying to protect us from the perceived or even real dangers of life. We can’t even go to the bathroom alone!Ĭan you imagine sitting by yourself with zero thoughts about your kids floating into your brain? Yeah-me neither. The mental load we carry as mothers is so heavy, we dream about being alone so we don’t have to worry about anyone else. So much to do.Īnd yes, we all fantasize about escaping to a deserted island after we become mothers. Some of us were functioning as single adults and then crumpled after motherhood-which, when you think about it, makes a lot of sense. Laura Mazza CHAPTER 1 This Is Your Brain on Motherhood It’s not motherhood we want a break from, it’s everything else we need to have a break from that distracts us from just being able to chill and enjoy motherhood. But as you navigate the following pages, I also hope you’ll come to see the beauty that comes with loving and accepting your new reality-mom brain and all. That, yes, despite the glorious moments that come with being a mom, this is hard. And if you didn’t get either your mind or body back, I’m right there with you.Īs you read this book, I hope you’ll realize your thoughts, feelings, and struggles surrounding motherhood are perfectly normal. I’m here to tell you that if you’ve got your pre-baby body back but not your pre-baby mind, you’re not alone. You go full speed while the music is pumping until suddenly you realize you must dart out and puke in the hallway trashcan. Picture the mother load a lot like your mom brain-except your cute little mom brain signed up for a spin class that you weren’t quite ready for. I picture my tired mom brain a lot like that little brain cartoon with the arms and legs running. This mama’s brain is worn out thanks to the seemingly endless loop it runs on. I can attest that even mature motherhood is hard too. It seems to me that most mothers experience mental health changes in one form or another.īecoming a new mom is a lot to experience. ![]() Whether it is a temporary bout of postpartum depression, feeling overwhelmed from the pressures and expectations of modern society, or full-blown anxiety and depression, it seems like very few mothers in my circle remain unscathed by the changes that their brains go through while mothering. And some of us-probably most of us-also struggle with mental illness. We face an overwhelming mental load to keep up with all the demands required of a woman to work, be a mom, and have it all. We deal with keeping up with other mothers online we deal with unwanted comments on how motherhood today should be. The pressure on moms today is unrelenting. In my friend circle, we all laugh off mom brain, but I have found my brain is different than the brain of my friends who have not had children.Īnd I don’t believe it’s as simple as our brain shrinking. It explains why I battle sensory overload all the time. That is why I can’t remember things and why I can’t handle stressors in my life. I joke with my husband that my brain has three times the shrinkage because I have three kids (if that’s the way it works), which explains my mom brain tendencies. Is the 8 percent shrinkage permanent? Is it 8 percent with each child? I’ll never forget watching Oprah and listening to an expert say that the female brain shrinks by 8 percent during pregnancy. ![]()
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